Thursday 30 January 2014

万马奔腾,锦绣前程!

虽然人人说年味渐淡,但是无论如何过年嘛就好好开心聚一聚。总觉得只要大家聚在一起,自然会闻到阵阵年味香。

今年的新年和我的生日很接近,可以说是喜上加喜。感谢大家给我的祝福和一个温馨的庆祝会,把我从忧郁中解救出来。尤其是捏你,感谢你一直得鼓励。

对了,昨天学校举办了《春到北钟》春节才艺欣赏会。坐在老师席上观看和当年与朋友们坐在地上起哄的感觉不同。可能是当了临教而表现得拘谨些,不敢在学生面前太亲善。有我那年的同学来校看望师长,不知怎么我有点害臊,没和他们交流。

昨晚吃了年夜饭后,赶去和少年军警的战友们见面。很高兴我赴了约!有些朋友已经好久不见,虽然无法一一与大家畅谈问候,但至少能见上一面。也许我们从前同甘共苦地筹办各种活动和参加各种比赛,而缔结了一种无法磨灭的情结。过去的摩擦大家已经释怀,只知道我们都是少年军警的一份子。就说这是一种归属感吧。

马上幸福!
马年蒙福!
马条祝福!






Sunday 26 January 2014

Strained

The last day of me being 19. I am turning 20. Abolideboh. Is this a sign of maturity or old age?

I cannot even utter a syllable for the moment. I think my throat is ruptured. This is the worst case scenario of shouting everyday for 2 weeks.

And I am not in a good mood, worse even. I hope this will not turn out to be my most miserable birthday of all. Didn't I just received my A-level results? Previously I thought if I have good results I would be very happy during my birthday. But it is not so apparently.

Perhaps I am absolutely a mute now, frustration comes when people ask me questions. I cannot speak. After explaining my condition to them via sign language, they finally understand but they will come back awhile later forgetting I cannot speak at all. I don't bother to entertain them. And the people surrounding me started to label me as "emo", I am not sure it is because of my lack-of-smile expression or the absence of my voice.

Yes, I have lost my speech. Maybe this is the reason why all the negative thoughts start to pile up in my heart. I have no way to pour out, no way to speak to anyone. Suddenly the poor me alone in my own dark world, while everyone seems to be celebrating. I cannot even cry out to God. Never have that voice.

I wonder why is this happening.

If there is an instrument to measure self-esteem, I think it will show negative on me. Pn Malathee was telling me that day, she missed the confident me. She noticed something wrong with me way before I did. You were to congratulate me for the results, but I ended up pouring out my struggles through texts. You said I have changed. You said what Pn Malathee said, the Matthew you knew was pretty confident. This time I was not ashamed to admit I have lost my confidence. I missed it too. I guess you didn't expect me to be so messed up at the moment. You tried to encourage me, but I doubted myself. Again you were amazed how shattered I am. Thank you for your comfort, thank you that you still believe the ever confident Matt will be back once he braves through this difficult time. Congratulate upon your first semester results too.

I know I can climb out of this pit. I know I must. Nobody will know your sorrows and no stranger will share your joy. I must do this on my own. I need hope, I need God.


Saturday 18 January 2014

临教有感

当了两个星期的临教,确实的说有点烦闷了。这种心情就像回到了中学上课时一样,起初重新回到学校的兴奋已经消失,开始不想起床,开始期待放学。

怎么会这样?

从前还没开始工作时,就常常思索:我连相对来说简单得多的每天上课都觉得厌烦,将来如何在职场呆上一辈子啊。常常留意父母,身边的大人和师长,很想知道为何在他们身上找不到半点厌烦的迹象。大家都是日出而作,日落而息,没有一丝怨言。或许有,但我不晓得,就像他们也多半看不出我厌倦上学的模样。

假如我将来是一名医生,行医的第一个星期应该很精彩。不过再怎么精彩刺激的事情,周而复始地做也会烦。就像现在的我,依照不可能变化的时间表,每天进班面对常常失控的同学们,很想念在家发霉的日子。如何不再拖着腿上班?很多人说,只要做自己很有兴趣的事,就能够很有热忱地去做,最好的例子就是苹果教父乔布斯。如此一听之下让人茅塞顿开的秘诀在几分钟后仍然是个秘诀。我相信我们所选择的都是我们认为自己喜爱的,不喜欢教书的不会去当教师,不喜欢医学的不会想当医生。会厌倦,是因为每天都在做一样的动作。

根据我两个星期的上班经验,要消除厌烦的负面情绪,得从心态下手。
(一)把眼光锁定在一天的工作就好,把“明天”一词从脑海里删除,这样就不会因为隔天还要上班而产生无力感。

(二)抱着正面的心情上班,享受工作的过程。就算是很单调的抄写工作,与其咒骂,不如自嘲几句,乐在其中。

(三)点燃心中的火把,一直向自己强调自己工作的目的。时时刻刻保持使命感,身为教师,提醒自己正在培育下一代,自己的言行举止对学生有着不容忽视的影响力。爱情也是一样,如果一直都有想想当初为什么爱上她,就不会轻易放弃一段感情。

(四)偶尔不按牌理出牌。会厌烦是因为单调,所以偶尔尝试一些新事物,不会枯燥,就不会烦闷。率领同学们到树下上课是一个不错的选择。

好了,就让我用下个星期来实践,看看效果如何。如果不行,感谢上帝我只会呆两个月。

Friday 10 January 2014

我想象的妳

新的一年学校开学了,我和学弟学妹们一样,回到了北海钟灵中学。我也是来上课的,只不过我不再是课室里四十多人中的一员,没穿校服没剪平头也没人理。一身西装踏入课室,四十多双锐利的眼神随着我的脚步挪移。到了桌前我抬头眼睛扫视,两排桌椅并肩排成一组,共四组,挂在微黄的后墙上是蓝色布告板,此景阔别两年再次映入眼帘,同学们的问安声响当当地传入耳中。原来,我当起了临教。

回到这所我呆了三年的学校,也许是我中学生涯最后落脚的地方,我别有一番滋味。看着从下午班升上上午班的初中三的学生那么地守规矩,安安份份战战兢兢,想起当年的我也不过如此。那是我连续第三年成为“新生”,照理说应该颇有经验,不过还是严重紧张和欠缺安全感。再加上我妈跟副校长很有交情,深怕自己万一闹出事妈妈就会马上知道,因此刚开学时我表现得很乖巧,衣服塞得整齐,扮一副傻书生样。

那三年的种种,迅速在我脑里播放了一遍。我所坐的座位,上课时的情景,和老师的交谈,和同学们的闹剧,当年她高挑的身影……三年多里我心上的一个人,如今她已名花有主,我也另觅佳人。那三年的痴迷,那三年的追逐,现在仅仅是伴随着那三年记忆的乐曲。

而如今我在那部影片中切切搜寻的画面,是印象中妳清秀的脸庞。我犹如失忆症患者般努力地捡起破碎满地的记忆,企图拼出有妳在的情景。然而那一块始终是空白。

妳也和我同窗三年,不过文静的妳和喧闹的我不曾说过十句话,也许注定毕业后的日子才是属于我们的。对不起我最终的搜寻结果是妳回过头和她说笑的时候,画面也很模糊,但我觉得应该就和妳现在美丽的笑颜差不多。

我拿着教本在课室来回踱步,一面讲课一面揣摩当年的妳。看着同学们上课的百般姿态,心想当年的妳上课是否专心?当年的妳上课是否偷偷干别样?当年的妳会带课本吗?依妳的性格,我想妳绝对不会在乎上一名临教的课,甚至厌烦。对了,还有当时的妳暗恋的是他。

空旷旷的食堂有我一个人吃饭,那些年我们一群少年军警战友所集合休息的地方,现今已是一座办公楼了。那时的我们万众一心,雄心壮志,誓言提升少年军警在学校乃是北海一带的声望。看着眼前的食堂,心里猜想那几年妳和妳的姐妹们都是坐在哪里的,有像我们有个固定的地点吗?是在隔壁的小食堂?还是是附近的石桌椅?我往口里送一口饭,熟悉的味道唤起更深层的记忆。当年的妳下课都吃什么?是云吞面?还是咖喱面?

看来我会在这里呆上几个月。校园里,眼前有陌生的脸孔,脑海有我亲切的妳。过去的回忆补不上妳,未来的记忆少不了妳。


Wednesday 1 January 2014

Two O One Four

From one point of view, this transition have never been so fruitful and exciting to me. I thought woe to me this time I had to stay in church for thanksgiving and watch night services. In other words, counting down to the new year in church, without friends. Since I attended the first time I have been finding excuses to skip the church services, either celebrate with friends or rather go to bed early. Ya, you got it right, it is going to be real bored spending such rare occasion on the church bench.

I decided to attend because I couldn't find any good excuses and I was guilty of skipping for several years. On top of that I didn't have the one as company to count down together with me in this so called sweet 1314 transition. Things changed when Clarence told me he would be fetching Angie Loh there. I was like, W-H-A-T? Why on earth would Angie Loh attend? And why watch night service. This was going to be interesting.

Okay, this wasn't her first time to church yet she asked some questions which to us were like why-you-have-two-hands. Thank God the more mature brother in church provided satisfactory answers. And just because Clarence, Amos and Yun Sheng those KDU students were busy with their own stuff and Angie idled with me around in the church, all the aunties and uncles thought we were a couple. Unsurprisingly, my mum was the first to pull me aside and bombard me with questions. "She was your student last time, don't you remember?" I replied in a good manner, not sure if I answered her questions. Everyone thought I brought her to church. My Youth Fellowship friends thrown at me we-suspected-you-have-a-girlfriend-so-here-she-is-huh kind of faces. Come on, my girlfriend would definitely be more gorgeous, if there is one. (Alright Angie if you are reading this line, just want to tell you from my heart you are very pretty as well, some aunties agree with me.)

Sorry Angie that we were so peaceful and chill when the clock hit twelve. We couldn't do much in the church right. Anyway, we went to auto city after the services, where we proceeded to mamak because the restaurants were closed. From there we had a list of our firsts of the year 2014.

First meal of the year, roti kosong with limau ais.
First ride of the year, blue CRV.
First place of the year, Grace Church.
First breath of the year, air.
First mission of the year, waking up Amos.
First mission accomplished of the year, waking up Amos.

My new year's eve was just so fun. Four of us planned to skip the watch night service this year end and find a place to celebrate.

Reached home at 2.30am, knowing well we had the Leader's Retreat to attend at 10.00am back in church.

Ohya, Happy New Year 2014!!